Tuesday Night Therapy
For some reason I keep accidentally reading books about marriages ending badly. This leads me to ask my husband unfortunate questions, like whether he would prefer to divorce me or shoot me and then throw my body in the Great Salt Lake. Obviously this is crazy on so many levels. But seriously, how ironic would it be that I spent my whole life avoiding the Great Salt Lake, only to meet my untimely end there.
Anyway, I’m reading another book about a marriage ending badly, Heartburn by Nora Ephron.
I starting reading it because, hello, it’s written by Nora Ephron, and she is fabulous, and lo and behold it’s about a divorce, but this time it’s a funny divorce, so it’s not that bad. Actually, it’s really quite delightful and I wholeheartedly recommend to one and all.
Plus, it saved me several years and several thousand dollars of therapy in this one paragraph.
“I loved to cook so I cooked. And then the cooking became a way of saying I love you. And then the cooking became the easy way of saying I love you. And then the cooking became the only way of saying I love you. Every so often I would look at my friends who were happily married and didn’t cook and I would always find myself wondering how they did it. Would anyone love me if I couldn’t cook? I always thought cooking was part of the package: Step right up, it’s Rachel Samstat, she’s bright, she’s funny, and she can cook!”
That about sums up 75% of my emotional problems. Okay, 50%. 25%? Fine, 7.5%. I have a lot of emotions, whatever. But it does explains why it upsets me so much when my husband comes home from work and has already eaten, or when my Dad picks up his running commentary on how much time and money I waste on this cooking hobby. Seriously people, I’m not good at much, let me be good at this! At least at the end of the day you can eat my hobby, which is not the case with most people.
I mean when was the last time you had a nice, juicy custom built server for dinner?
Exactly.
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I love love love Nora Ephron! I haven’t read this one yet though, and can’t wait too